On Common Values in Relationship

In a romantic relationship unity of values are important for mutual understanding and harmonious relationship overall. 

My parents used to argue with each other a lot and I certainly want to avoid that in my own relationship. I want a girl who agrees with on everything.

That does not only to common third culture kid culture, but also to other aspects of personality. 

How one sees their place in life, do they want to contribute to society or take the best for themselves. 

Do they feel shame and guilt or not. 

What do they treat people around them. 

Do they see world as hierarchy with themselves above someone, but below someone else or do they see everyone as neither superior nor inferior to them. 

Do they believe that everyone is the same or that everyone is different.

Does one take personal interests above all else or believe in some common values, such as religious ones, that are above these.

Answers to these questions can produce a common ground for the relationship or in contrast create rifts that will not be able to heal.

Thus, I want a girl who shares my views and approach to life. 

I take best for myself, and I want a girl who does what will benefit me at whoever else expense. I do not care if others suffer so long as I am getting good stuff. I need it more than anyone else, period, even if they will die without it. (However, I do not mess with people out of spite, malice or boredom. Some other people do but not me. I do cause other people problems, if it is not for my advantage.)

I do not feel shame or guilt. While I like girls who can looked embarrassed in a sexy way (because her pussy is exposed or something else), I do not like girls who will flat out refuse to do things because of their conscience or something like that.

While hierarchies do exist in the world, I do try to avoid them as much as I can. I do not accept informal social hierarchies and do not pay any attention to them when interacting with people around me. Only people who accept flat non-hierarchical social interactions can really be my friends. The only hierarchical thing I eventually embraced is that women are always inferior and subordinated to men. However, men are equal to each other, as women are equal to each other. Especially so within a group. There can be exceptions in this rule, but overall, I gravitate towards this idea. Like on fictional planet Gor, where men always rule, and women always serve as kajirae. I wish to see the world where men never serve, and women never rule.

I overall do believe that everyone is different and dislike various 'one size fits all' totalitarian ideologies that wish to make everyone the same, such as religions. Especially Abrahamic religions such as Judaism, Christianity and Islam. I absolutely hate people who tell me what to do and avoid them like a plague. I do not do as they say and sometimes do the opposite just to spite and assert my individuality. Often discreetly as I do not want to be chewed at by some zealot. I can even do radical things to eliminate such people from my life.

I want to create a culture (or subculture) for people who share my views and values so that we can live the way we see fit. I want to either overthrow existing culture and order, or distance myself from it as much as possible as to not be controlled by its rules. I want a girl who shares this attitude and also does not feel any loyalty to the current mainstream culture. I want to make sure that she also detests feminism and the culture of the 10s.

Finally, I do not see myself as someone who works for society as a whole. I do not think that I owe anything to either society or my parents. I do not wish to pay them back or contribute to them on any moral grounds. My girl too has to have unimpeded loyalties to me alone and no one else such as her parents or broader society.

I however can work for the benefit or a group if this group in turn does not fail to look after my self-interests. However, they have to prove their worth and ability to contribute towards my self-interests. I am very much open towards forming such groups jointly with people who share this attitude. I can have loyalty to such group, but I will lose it in an instant if such group ever fails to contribute to my self-interests.

Also, I love unrestrained hedonism and dreaminess of 1999 and the 00s I absolutely abhor the austerity era of 10s with its material poverty. I want a girl who shares my views on that and work to make sure my life feels as hedonistic as possible.