Peculiar Subtype of Bad Parents

When people talk about bad parents, they typically mean alcoholics or drug addicts who beat wife and children. However far not every bad parent is so obviously bad and problematic. Most bad parents are more discreet.

One such type is parent who are full of vanity and want their children to waste a lot of their time and effort to pursue activities such as ballet or music. They say it's for their own good but in reality, it's all about parents own vanity and desire to brag to their peers about their kids' "achievements". Children's own needs and interests are typically ignored and sometimes shut with hypocritical "it's for your own good" or some other excuse. 

I had that kind of parents and know many others who also had to deal with that. They made me waste a lot of time on things that did not help me in life but allowed them to brag to their peers and feel "proud" Despite that, selfish greedy bastards always complained I am not doing enough. I am not some puppy dog to bother pleasing them. 

On Moon

Moon has always fascinated humanity. Big mysterious disk that emerges at night, grows in size from a crescent to a full moon, then back to a crescent and disappears only to re-emerge as new moon. People used moon cycles to measure weeks and month. Some associated it with certain gods or goddesses. They gazed on its pale light and pondered over mysteries of the universe. Unlike sun that will burn your eyes if you stare at it too long, moon was something one can look at for hours and never tire of it.

Because of all that moon eventually developed a mystical reputation. Fiction used and enhanced it further and further. Gradually moon became a focal point of mystical and even spiritual depth.

When humanity learned how to reach space, one of the first places we wanted to visit was moon. We wanted to see for ourselves what this mysterious body on night sky is made of. Eventually Americans did that, and Buzz Aldrin made his preverbal small step on the surface of this celestial body.

The close investigation did dampen if not outright refuted all this history of moon pondering. Moon ended up a lifeless rock floating in space and its mysterious light is nothing more than a pale reflection of light of the sun. Over the course of his short stay Buzz Aldrin have not found any reasons to ever visit this rock again. Scientists who study rocks he brought with him was of a similar opinion.

Meanwhile telescopes found a lot of interesting on Venus, some on Mars and many more on satellites of Jupiter and Saturn. Science refocused its efforts on these celestial bodies instead.

Just like than moon ended it with two contrasting ideas of itself. One it a mystical body that fiction continues to perpetrate, and the other is a bland reality that it's one of the most boring objects in the Solar system.

I am Rule-Maker

 People try to ban me not because I am a rule breaker but because I am a rule maker.

Girls Should be Good Homemakers

 

I wrote this originally on reddit, but feminazi woke mods deleted my post and banned me. So, I rewrote it here in the interest of freedom of speech and truth about relationship. Do not let feminazis silence the truth.

Women have to be good homemakers irrespectively if they work or do not. Cleaning and cooking are the reasons men marry women. Every woman who wishes to marry one day should be good at doing this thing and willing to do it for her husband. Women who do not do domestic chores are useless and no one will marry them. Yes, they have to work and then do chores after or before work.

Melancholy of Me and My Friends

 

Now we finally got to the final chapter of Me and My Friends Series, Melancholy. Melancholy can be examined in its own right, but that would be short and simple. However, will miss important details. Instead, I decided to make it a somewhat summary and synthesis of all the previous traits. 

Melancholy is the outcome of three other traits combined. Great intelligence, facing all or mostly obstacles in the world first produces cynicism, then escapism and satirical humor and then melancholy. However, if cynicism, satire and escapism are tactical responses to the reality, then melancholy is the overreaching summary. It is the final stop and a crowning achievement. It is also a summary or an umbrella term that covers all three to a certain extend.

Finally, melancholy is one of 4 (five in other versions) tempers. Together with sanguine, choleric, phlegmatic and supine they make the tempers or humors that people are divided into. Each temper has its own characteristics, I covered them partly in my other article and posts on MAL.

Melancholy often associated with sadness. However, it is a particular form of long-term chronic sadness. After all, when you know the world can be so much more than it is but unable to do anything about it. When everyone stands in the way of your ideas and prevents you from getting ahead. What else can you feel, but melancholy.

You can mock your enemies and stupidity of the world with striking humor to make you feel better. Be cynical about the world and refuse to work the treadmill that feeds others but not you. Escape with a good book, movie or videogame. However, when you finish playing you still feel this overreaching feeling that it's all futile and nothing will ever change. The melancholy never does not go away for good; it can only be temporarily eclipsed with the other three.

There is a saying that in "with much wisdom there is much sorrow". That is true. The smarter you are, the better you understand just how ridiculously unfair and fucked up our world and life is.

From my experience, everything in world is luck describes world much more accurately than hard work is rewarded. Most the rewards I got or did not get was due to luck and other such things completely independent of my own efforts. A lot, but not all, of hard work I did gave me nothing of value.

Post financial crisis economy makes its even worth with all these volunteering opportunities, where they do not even pretend, they will pay you anything for the efforts you make. Actually no, they promise that someone will hire you for a paid work sometime down the line in future based on your volunteering experience. A clear scam. However, they will not hire a person who needs to be paid and paid well for a job they can make someone do for free. 

Post crisis economy is designed for idiots, too dumb to realize people obviously just using them and will give them nothing in return. A person with more than room temperature IQ should avoid working in such economy.

Room temp IQ idiot, they want to hire, would just believe anything they tell them and work hard for no reward. Such an idiot could be happy in his own way, but you do not wish to have his kind of happiness. Yes, you are sad, but you do not want to be like an idiot, run around like a puppy dog and be exploited by those around you. 

Idiots live for other people sake, get exploited by them and then get dumped. They end up with nothing because they are stupid.

Melancholics are smarter than that. We will not be used for others sake, instead we will use other for our sake.

We do not settle on just what we have here and now. We want to see things change and improved. However, we are few and there are many who instead want things to continue the same and not change. Conflict with such people make us melancholic and cynical as we feel powerless to get what we want from life and people who control stuff. That powerlessness to change things you want to change about the world leads to other things we indulge, such as escapism and satire.

Occasionally we can lament the fact that some people get good parents or other benefactors who give them anything they want, and we do not get the same. We have less simple because fickle fate gave us stingy or abusive parents. 

So how you go from there? You can just live a Charlie Munger strategy and keep on living an escapist life until life will finally deal you a good hand. Yet time goes on and on and a good hand does not come. Leaving you to wonder if that will ever happen.

I guess you can use Astrology to find out when good times are finally coming. 

On 20 of November this year Pluto will finally leave Capricorn for good and continue its journey in Aquarius. Capricorn was always associated with conservatism, preserving status quo and resisting any change. We have seen a lor of that in the years after Financial Crisis of 2008 when Pluto was in Capricorn. In contrast Aquarius is associated with radical change that more than willing to uproot and overhaul, all structures and foundations.

In 2025 Neptune will begin its transition into Aries and Uranus into Gemini. Both will complete this transition only in 2026. It's typical for outer planets to dip into new sign, then backtrack out during a transitional year or two. Pluto begun its transition to Aquarius in March of 2023 and is about to complete it only this year.

Melancholy Connects

Different tempers work differently with each other. Some can get along and others do not. However same tempers can at least understand each other and Melancholy is no exception. For example, in my conversation with TrueHellDei it became clear from the start that she has the same melancholic disposition as I do. That early conversation about the world and religion let me conclude this much.

That common trait let us connect, find common ground and grow increasingly found of each other. I said many good things about her, retrospectively I can say I did so because she is as melancholic as I am. Melancholy was that common ground and foundation on which our relationship was build.

My other friends have some of the same melancholic disposition to them.

That is how we melancholics are. We only like each other's company.

And Disconnects

You might call it snobism, but reality is that people of different termers think too different from us because they come from a completely different mindset that is based on different premises and worldview.  Choleric for example likely believe in their own inferiority and deficiency, that is why they torture themselves and others around them to "improve" them. We melancholics do not think problem is with us, we think it's the world that is broken. 

Thus, an interaction between Melancholic and Choleric would be a constant argument where Melancholics would assert that problem is with the world and Choleric instead insist the problem is with Melancholic and world is perfect. Such an interaction is an insufferable torture. I can even say it from experience as my parents are Cholerics.

Conclusion

A melancholic's great intelligence entitles him to stand above room temperature idiots and other stupid types. Al least in his own mind. 

Thus, we should unite and figure out how to exploit the rest of society for our sake. After all society was likely designed by other melancholics just like us to work for them. They likely called themselves upper class/caste or something like that to make sure they are entitled to rip benefits from everyone else's work. Now that this place is vacant, we simply need to find way to get there. 

Society is large enough to comfortably provide for a group of savvy melancholics, on the other hand its rules are too complicated and convoluted for a single mind to overcome them. Thus, we should work together and brainstorm how to bypass them.

4/5 Tempers/Humours and -deres

I thought recently that 4 Tempers and different types of deres do correlate with one another.

Saunguine - Genki

Choleric - Tsundere

Melancholic - Kuudere

Phlegmatic - Dandere

Supine - Deredere

I am personally a Melancholic and I also like girls of the same type.

Many of my waifus with significant objective flaws also melancholic/kuudere types. I find likable nevertheless, probably because they have the same 'flaws' as me.

Tomoko, Ranko, Mako Reizei, Roberta, Mei Misaki are all clearly Melancholics/Kuudere.

I also like Phlegmatic and Supine types as well. However I think many would find these types likeable, they are very girly.

In contrast I really hate Choleric, this type annoys me the most and I try to avoid them.

Sanguine is kind of more complex, may be this one more depends on individual person.

I have a sanguine friend, but he is a guy, I am not sure how a girl of such type will be.

I found a couple of temper tests; you can do it too:

https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/O4TS/

https://www.idrlabs.com/temperament/test.php

This one actually got me choleric instead.

https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/O4TS/results.php?dat=MTcgMTQgMTMgNg--

Escapism of Me and My Friends

Next chapter in the series about my psycho. So, what to do when life refuses to give you what you want. If you have power and money, you can force your way. However, if you do not have either then you can either give up and live in a role your parents and society pigeonholed you or escape. We are the latter type.

There are two fundamental ways of escaping. One is to indulge yourself in something that will make you forget about reality and its problems. The other is to physically move somewhere where people would hopefully appreciate you more. I will begin with the former.

First type escapism is simple. It's just desire to forget about the shit we have here and now and just indulge in a good fictional, book, movie or a video game where world is better and more interesting.

There are many forms of internal escapism. The simplest ones are alcohol and drugs. There are plenty of people who can only do that. I can perfectly understand them. It is much better to drink yourself to death or oblivion, that to clean shit after some retarded twat who was lucky enough to be born of wealthy parents, but thinks he is better than you and deserves what he got while you deserve only shit. The retarded twats would be angry with your life choices but fuck them.

Me and some of my friends do drink every so often, but this is not our primary way of escaping. We have great and wonderful world of fiction and video games at our disposal. Sure, not every book and movie are worth your time, but there are some that do. They provide wonderful experience of how world and society could have been if better people would be in power.

Video games are even better. They are more immersive. The better ones can at least feel like you are in a better world and doing something you much rather do instead of what society willing to offer you.

Some video games have such a good story and writing they deserve a Nobel Prize in Literature. This is truly a medium for intelligent people. Doubly so now that books and especially movies mostly cater to less smart and wise audiences.

There is Japanese anime too. Some titles are as wise and profound as best philosophers. Not to mention wonderful art, created by people who actually understand what appeals to people and why and able to deliver it.

Finally, music. While the most popular artists are the worst garbage possible and not worth your time. However, such pop artists are but a tip of musical iceberg. Music is much bigger than that, dig dipper and you will find many wonderful songs and titles. Once again Japanese are at forefront of that. Yukka, Nakagawa Kentaro, Yuki Kajiura and many others make some of the most wonderful songs out there.

And when there is no any external mediums then people like Fedya can entertain us with his funny and engaging humor. During his childhood, Fedya and his friends invented many interesting and curious ideas on their own and they played games, imagining themselves someone else. I was in a different school at that time, so he told me about it afterwards. Me and my brother too invented a fictional world or two of our own.

The humor is also a form of escapism. Nothing quite as uplifting as reducing current social orthodoxy into a ridiculous joke.

With all of that you can shut the "real life" out of your world and live a much better and wonderful existence. Existence, surrounded by fiction, compere to which reality is like a turd compared to a foie gras.

I write the whole blog about fiction that can make your life better than what it is.

Fiction is wonderful, however, in the end of the day, it is not enough. Sometimes the reality creeps back and annoyingly demand your attention to its ugly mug. A nasty weather or unpleasant people can bring you back to reality you so desperately want to avoid.

One way of dealing with them is to only deal with people and places you like for one or the other reasons. I try to do it and sometimes even develop habit of dealing with the same people I am chill with over and over again.

There is also another thing. No matter how good fiction is, its fundamentally an illusion. You want something concrete and bigger. You want to make the fiction you like into reality. You want it to become life on the ground.

There were many dreamers that dreamed of things bigger than what reality have afforded them. Some of them even managed to get their hands on resources to make their dreams into reality. It is because of people like that we have planes, computers, internet and other such wonderful things.

Yet there is one other a even more grounded form of escapism. A simple physical move from one place to another. You can move a city a country a continent even. I did that. In Russia I felt I will never manage to get ahead in life. Majority of classmates and adults looked down on me and my ideas. It was obvious they will never give me enough power to make things my way or at least enough money to indulge myself into things I love.

Because of that I chose to emigrate from them as far as I could. To Australia to be precise. I can move elsewhere providing there will be better conditions for me. After all, if people do not value you, there is no need to suffer them. Just go and find some different people who will value you. That is why friends who you can pick and choose are better than parents and relatives that cannot be changed.

I did not ask Javier or Tsukasa about their reason for coming to Australia, but I felt it was the same thing. They too wanted to escape places that did not value them and get somewhere better. Together we created an escapist community of sorts. Sure, not everyone of our classmates was like that, for some it was just a career move to advance in a corporate ladder back home. However, we ended up dividing into informal groups friends that somewhat reflect our views and aspirations.

That is escapism and next is the final chapter of these series, melancholy.