I never particularly liked children, but it recently occurred to me that it might be not because the children themselves are so bad, but because of how parents raise them.
Children are traditionally viewed positively by society and so it parenthood. People are praised and sometimes even rewarded for being parents and taking care of children. At the same time, they are given certain leeway when it comes to things like behavior or noise their children make. That is done on assumption that it's hard to make children behave and that parents should not be blamed too hard if their kid does something wrong. They of course assume that parents do their best to educate their children on how to behave in a society and minimise trouble to people around them.
However, what if these assumptions are not correct. What if parents do not parent in good faith. What if instead of teaching children to behave they actually secretly encourage their disturbing behavior. Parents know their kids can get away with being noisy and obnoxious and deliberately encourage them to behave as insufferable as possible. Society at large does not blame the kids themselves up to a certainty age and even if they blame them, they never assume that parents would parent in bad faith and deliberately encourage kids to misbehave. Parents knowing they will not be blamed, will feel completely safe to miseducate their children.
Why would parents do that, many reasons actually. One simply projection of their desires to disturb society and upset the applecart onto kids. They wanted to do it but could not, now they tell their kids its alright because society at large assume kid would only do that if they did not know better. Second is desire to annoy as many people as possible. Some just cannot sit idle when they see someone just chilling, so they want to disturb them, either out of spite or just because seeing people chilling somehow annoys them. Finally, they might relish the idea of using parental privilege of sort, they know parents are forgiven for noise and misbehavior and they want to rub it into other people's faces. Kind of like "I have kids and it makes more special and superior to you, so suck it up and suffer as my kids annoy you to no end" type of behavior. There could be other reasons too.
Recent spike in very loud and very unruly kids made me think that parents are indeed parenting in bad faith and only encourage this bad behavior. Yes, sure sometimes kids make noise if they are hurt or something like that, but when they just screech like some kind of monster all the time, that is not normal. There must be something much more sinister than casual 'kids will be kids' behind such behavior.
I hope that government will notice this post and will look into children behavior as well as what causes it. Psychologists might be able to talk to kids and find out more about what motivates them to behave in such an anti-social way. Schools and kindergartens can be places to conduct such an investigation.
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