Why Western Men Choose Asian Women

I was originally writing this as part of why Japanese culture has global appeal article, but this topic became so long, I decided to make it a separate article.

It is almost not a secret that Western world has a serious issue when it comes to making relationships between genders fulfilling. No one with exception of Alt-right openly calls it a problem with society. However, are many anecdotes and jokes about all the stress that drama that comes with a relationship. Too many to dismiss them as just hearsay and not be concerned. Some of the stories about misfortune that comes from marriage and relationships are so horrible that they make people think twice before even trying to date anyone.

In the west both men and women like to put all the blame on the opposite gender. Women think men are weak and have no sexual drive or attraction. They often calling relationship boring and want to escape. Men on the other hand think that women are irrational and impossible to understand. Neither side is satisfied with the opposite gender, and both think it's entirely the opposite gender fault.

Western women find solution to their relationship problem in dating Black men. Unreasonably high popularity of rap music is a reflection of this rather sad reality.

Western men look towards Asian women instead. This demand is so huge, entire Thai cities live entirely of While men looking for Asian women tourism. Some just go to Thailand to have fun with prostitutes, other do bring Thai girls home as wives. Even some relatively popular people do it. 

The only reason this is not on the pages of celebrity gossip magazines only because such magazines are mostly popular with women. Women do not want to read about men choosing Thai women. People generally prefer comforting lies to uncomfortable truth; magazines cater for such demand. Celebrity magazines fabricate stories of select few mainstay celebrities, whose whole life is a clever careful fabrication by editors who just know these stories sell, no matter how untrue. These people maintain fake relationship with an unlikable feminist woman; no real actual man will even look at. Celebrity magazines lie.

As much as media and some celebrities like to assert that "new feminist woman" is the way forward, the reality is that most men do not find "feminist modern" women attractive at all. To center this feminist trend, men want a woman that is polar opposite of a "modern feminist woman". Asian women seem like just such opposite.

Those men who are OK with a "modern feminist woman" will just find themselves a western girl. It is those who want a different kind of girl, look for a girl in other countries. More often than not their search ends on Asia.

However not every Asian country is the same. By extension not every Asian girl is the same. A Chinese is different from a Japanese, Chinese from one province can be different from Chinese from another province.

However, from the distance western men could easily overlook such difference, assuming that all Asian girls are the same. These assumptions give other Asian girls a good chance with a western man.

Broadly speaking western men look for a Japanese or a Japanese-like girl. Japanese culture is the most familiar and most well understood of all Asian cultures. Japanese are known for being humble and polite, traits opposite of bold, assertive, feminist woman. Its these peculiarly Japanese traits that western men want in a woman. Even if they end up with a Chinese or Korean girl, they will pick her based on how Asian (read Japanese she is).

Since there are not many Japanese in the west, other Asian girls got picked too. Many of these are Chinese simply because there are many more Chinese in the west than Japanese or other Asians. However, Chinese is not a necessary good pick for someone who wants a girl who is not like western one in every way. Broadly speaking Chinese culture and identity revolves around assumption that China is great, ancient and well accomplished civilization. As a personality trait this can be called pride, which is the opposite of Japanese humbleness. Not every Chinese is equally prideful however and that will give Chinese girls who are not prideful a much better chance at getting a western man than those who are prideful.

Koreans, Vietnamese and Thais all have their own peculiar cultural traits. Thailand is known as country of smiles and a smile in western culture associated with welcoming and friendly demeanor. Thai are particularly popular among men. Otherwise, prostitution will not be as widespread as it is in Thailand. If a man willing to pay $100 for an hour with a girl, then this girl must be very appealing in his eyes. Yes, morals often look down on prostitution as immoral and low thing to do. Broad society looks down on women who sell themselves for money, but men pay for them because they like them.

If you analyse Thai culture, then you can draw some parallels with Japanese one. Thais can also be considered humble and polite, a be it in somewhat different from Japanese way, but humble enough in western eyes.

As to why western men like humbleness and look for that traits in women, then some might want to explain it with biology and natural instincts. That is true but only partly. I would also add that humbleness offers best guarantee that women will take care of you, your home and your children. Women who lack humbleness will be more likely to neglect their duty to their husband. Most men want a woman who does take care of them and their home. These things are the only benefit woman can bring into man's life. Thus, it's a natural choice for a man to look for a humble woman.

Any other traits in a woman do not produce any good outcomes for a man. Ambitious women will likely divorce him and marry someone else; he will lose a lot of money. A nagging wife will shorten his lifespan with her nagging. A feminist does not even do anything to benefit man in any way. Boldness and assertiveness are not traits men find attractive, women like these traits but men find them repulsive. 

Thus, it's only natural for a man to pick what is best for him: a humble wife. The only option that does not result in a bad outcome for him. In our current society this option is provided by Asian women. Thus, western men choose Asian women. This is the reality of the world around us and a most gainful choice in given circumstances.